“乖孩子”的危险：英语精读讲义

They do their homework on time.

他们按时做作业。

Their writing is neat.

他们字迹工整。

They keep their bedroom tidy. 語法

他们保持卧室整洁。

They're often a little shy.

他们通常有些腼腆。

They want to help their parents.

他们想帮父母的忙。

They use their brakes when cycling down a hill. 語法

他们骑车下坡时会捏刹车。

Because they don't pose many immediate problems, 短語搭配

因为他们不会立即惹出什么麻烦，

we tend to assume that all is well with good children. 短語搭配

我们往往认为乖孩子一切都好。

They aren't the target for particular concern.

他们不是特别需要关注的对象。

That all goes to the kids who are graffitiing the underpass.

所有的关注都给了那些在地下通道涂鸦的孩子。

People imagine the good children are fine

人们想象乖孩子都没问题，

because they do everything that's expected of them. 短語搭配

因为他们做到了所有被期望的事情。

And that, of course, 表達脈絡

当然，这

is precisely the problem.

恰恰是问题的所在。

The secret sorrows and future difficulties of the good boy or girl

乖男孩或乖女孩隐秘的悲伤和未来的困境，

begin with their inner need for excessive compliance. 用詞

源于他们内心对过度顺从的需要。

The good child isn't good

乖孩子之所以乖，

because by a quirk of nature, 習語

并不是因为某种天性使然，

they simply have no inclination to be anything else. 短語搭配

让他们完全没有其他的倾向。

They are good because they have no other option. 短語搭配

他们乖，是因为别无选择。

Their goodness is a necessity rather than a choice. 語法

他们的乖巧是一种必然，而不是一种选择。

Many good children are good out of love of a depressed, 短語搭配

许多乖孩子之所以乖，是出于对抑郁、

harassed parent who makes it clear they just couldn't cope with any more complications or difficulties. 短語搭配

疲惫不堪的父母的爱，这些父母清楚地表明自己再也无法应对更多的麻烦或困难了。

Or maybe they're very good to soothe a violently angry parent

或者，他们可能为了安抚暴怒的父母而表现得很乖，

who could become catastrophically frightening at any sign of less than perfect conduct. 用詞

这些父母一旦看到任何不完美的举动，就会变得极其可怕。

But this sort of repression of more challenging emotions,

但是，这种对更具挑战性情绪的压抑，

though it produces short-term pleasant obedience, 語法

尽管在短期内会产生令人愉快的顺从，

stores up a huge amount of difficulty in later life. 短語動詞

却为他们以后的生活积攒了巨大的困难。

Practiced educators and parents should spot signs of exaggerated politeness

经验丰富的教育工作者和父母应该发现过度礼貌的迹象，

and treat it as the grave danger it really is. 語法

并将其视为真正严重的危险来对待。

The good child becomes a keeper of too many secrets 習語

乖孩子成了太多秘密的保守者，

and an appalling communicator of unpopular but important things.

在传达不受欢迎但重要的事情上表现得极其糟糕。

They say lovely words.

他们说着好听的话。

They're experts in satisfying the expectations of their audiences, 短語搭配

他们是满足听众期望的专家，

but their real thoughts and feelings stay buried 習語

但他们真实的想法和感受却被埋藏起来，

and then generate psychosomatic symptoms, 用詞

进而产生心身症状，

twitches, sudden outbursts,

抽搐、突然的情绪爆发，

and sulfurous bitterness.

以及充满怨恨的苦涩。

The sickness of the good child is that they have no experience

乖孩子的病态在于，他们没有经历过

of other people being able to tolerate their badness. 用詞

别人能够包容他们的坏。

They have missed out a vital privilege accorded to the healthy child, 講解

他们错过了健康孩子被赋予的一项重要特权，

that of being able to display envious, greedy, egomaniacal sides

那就是能够展现出嫉妒、贪婪、自大的一面，

and yet be tolerated and loved nevertheless. 表達脈絡

却依然能被包容和被爱。

The good person typically has particular problems around sex.

乖孩子在性方面通常有特定的问题。

As a child,

在孩童时期，

they may have been praised for being pure and innocent.

他们可能因为纯洁无瑕而受到赞扬。

As they become an adult, however,

然而，当他们长大成人后，

like all of us,

像我们所有人一样，

they discover the ecstasies of sex,

他们会发现性的狂喜，

which can be beautifully perverse and excitingly disgusting.

它可以是美妙地有悖常理，令人兴奋地觉得恶心。

But this may be radically at odds with a picture of what they believe they're allowed to be like. 習語

但这可能与他们自认为应该成为的形象严重不符。

They may in response disavow their desires, 用詞

作为回应，他们可能会否认自己的欲望，

go cold and detached from their bodies, 習語

变得冷漠并与自己的身体脱节，

or perhaps give in to their longings 短語動詞

或者可能会屈服于自己的渴望，

only in a disproportionate way that's destructive to other bits of their lives

但这种方式往往不成比例，对他们生活的其他部分造成破坏，

and leaves them disgusted and frightened.

并让他们感到厌恶和恐惧。

At work, the good adult has problems too.

在工作中，乖成年人也会遇到问题。

As a child,

孩童时期，

they follow the rules,

他们遵守规则，

never make trouble,

绝不惹麻烦，

and take care not to annoy anyone. 語法

并且小心翼翼不惹怒任何人。

But following the rules won't get you very far in adult life. 習語

但在成年人的世界里，遵守规则并不能让你走得很远。

Almost everything that's interesting, worth doing, 語法

几乎所有有趣的、值得做的事情，

or important will meet with a degree of opposition. 短語搭配

或者是重要的事情，都会遇到一定程度的反对。

A brilliant idea will always disappoint certain people

一个绝妙的主意总会让某些人失望，

and yet may be very much worth holding on to. 短語動詞

但它可能非常值得坚持下去。

The good child is condemned to career mediocrity and sterile people-pleasing. 習語

乖孩子注定在职业生涯中平庸，成为毫无结果的讨好者。

Being properly mature involves a frank, unfrightened relationship with one's own dark sides, 習語

真正的成熟意味着能够坦然、无畏地面对自己的阴暗面、

complexities, and ambitions.

复杂性和野心。

It involves accepting that not everything that makes us happy will please others 語法

这意味着接受并非所有让我们快乐的事情都能取悦他人，

or be honored as especially nice by society,

或者被社会视为特别美好，

but that it can be important to explore and hold on to it nevertheless.

尽管如此，去探索并坚持它依然可能很重要。

The desire to be good is one of the loveliest things in the world.

想要变乖的渴望是世界上最美好的事情之一。

But in order to have a genuinely good life,

但是，为了拥有真正美好的生活，

we may sometimes need to be,

我们有时可能需要，

by the standards of the good child, 短語搭配

按照乖孩子的标准，

fruitfully and bravely bad. 表達脈絡

展现出富有成效、勇敢的坏。

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