爱情到底值多少钱？：英语精读讲义

Hey, Vsauce. Michael here

嘿，Vsauce，我是 Michael。

and I'm in Los Angeles,

我现在人在洛杉矶，

but today we're going to talk about love.

不过今天我们要聊的是爱。

You can't buy love,

爱情是买不到的，

but what if you could? 語法

但如果能买到呢？

I mean, what if I had a machine

我的意思是，假如我有一台机器，

that could make you fall in love 短語搭配

能让你爱上

with someone for the rest of your life?

某个人，并且一爱就是一辈子呢？

What should I charge

我该收多少钱

for the use of that machine?

才让你使用这台机器呢？

Well, we should first of all

首先，我们应该

be clear about what we mean 短語搭配

先弄清楚自己所说的

when we say love.

“爱”究竟是什么。

I'm not talking about the love

我说的不是

you have for your BFFs

你对死党的爱，

or your love for your family 短語搭配

也不是你对家人的爱，

or your love of learning.

或是你对学习的热爱。

I'm also not talking about lust,

我说的也不是性欲，

an immediate attraction we have

也就是我们对他人产生的

towards other people

即时吸引力，

mediated by hormones 用詞

它由一些激素促成，

like testosterone and estrogen.

比如睾酮和雌激素。

I'm talking about what happens later,

我说的是之后发生的事：

when you begin to associate 短語搭配

你开始把

an immediate reward with one other person,

某一个人和即时奖励联系起来，

what we call passionate love. 語法

也就是我们所说的激情之爱。

This is what you see in new couples

这种现象常见于刚交往的情侣，

where they want to be with each other

他们总想和对方待在一起，

and they're almost obsessed with each other. 短語搭配

几乎到了迷恋彼此的程度。

Well, psychologists have a really great term

其实，心理学家有个很棒的术语，

for that kind of love.

用来形容这种爱。

They call it limerence. 用詞

他们称之为“迷恋”。

That's right.

没错。

Whenever you are in this state

每当你处于这种状态时，

and you do things like

就会做出这样的事：

wake up super early to get a bagel

一大早爬起来去吃贝果，

with the person

只为和那个人见面，

and even though you're going to miss class 語法

即使这样会让你错过一堂课，

just because you want to see them that badly, 用詞

也无所谓，因为你实在太想见到对方，

you're exhibiting limerent behavior.

这就是迷恋行为。

Okay, that sounds great.

好吧，听起来很不错。

But if I want to sell love,

但如果我想出售爱情，

I'm going to have to find 講解

就必须找到

a way to measure it.

衡量它的方法。

And it turns out to be quite a difficult task. 短語動詞

事实证明，这可相当困难。

We do have a tool 語法

我们的确有一种工具，

called the passionate love survey.

叫作“激情之爱量表”。

It was developed by psychologists

它由心理学家开发，

and it's been found to be quite reliable 語法

而且事实证明相当可靠，

when it comes to analyzing 短語搭配

尤其是在分析

other behaviors we associate with passionate love.

其他与激情之爱相关的行为时。

For instance,

比如，

we've found using the survey

我们通过这份量表发现，

that men and women both

无论男性还是女性，

experience the same amounts of

在恋爱关系中感受到的

passionate love when they're in a relationship.

激情之爱程度都一样。

We've also found that men

我们还发现，男性

tend to fall in love 短語搭配

往往会坠入爱河，

faster and sooner than women

而且比女性更快、更早，

who appear to be more cautious. 短語搭配

女性似乎更加谨慎。

But we're here to talk about money. 表達脈絡

但我们今天是来谈钱的。

Interestingly, a UK study once looked

有趣的是，英国曾有一项研究，考察了

at people who heard

那些第一次听说

that someone else loved them.

有人爱自己的人。

They heard the phrase, "I love you."

他们听到“我爱你”这句话，

for the first time.

而且是人生第一次。

And they took the amount of happiness those people felt

研究人员把这些人的幸福程度

and compared it to the amount of happiness 短語搭配

与赌徒

gamblers feel when they win

赢得

large sums of money.

大笔金钱时的幸福程度作了比较。

Their conclusion,

他们得出的结论是：

that hearing that someone loves

第一次听到有人

you for the first time

说爱你时，

is the equivalent happiness

你感受到的幸福程度，

level of receiving $267,000.

相当于收到267,000美元。

But when you go beyond 表達脈絡

但如果越过

passionate love to committed long-term love,

激情之爱，进入彼此承诺的长期爱情，

there's all kinds of practical benefits marriage brings.

婚姻还会带来各种实际好处。

In fact,

事实上，

it's been estimated that 語法

据估算，

tax breaks and healthcare costs 文化背景

税收优惠与医疗开支

altogether mean that being

合在一起，意味着

married is the equivalent 短語搭配

结婚就相当于

of receiving an extra $100,000 a year.

每年多拿100,000美元。

Now, we have a lot

现在，我们有很多

of ways of visualizing

直观呈现的方式，

the effect having money 語法

可以展示金钱

has on a person.

对一个人的影响。

For instance, we know

比如，我们知道，

that in wealthier countries

在更富裕的国家，

people report feeling respect more often.

人们表示自己更常感受到尊重。

They also report eating

比如，他们也表示

tastier foods, for instance.

自己吃到的食物更美味。

But here's what's really awesome.

但真正厉害的是这个。

Take a look at the

来看看

graph of wealth against love. 用詞

财富与爱情的关系图。

It doesn't matter.

财富并不重要。

Love is democratic, 習語

爱面前人人平等，

no matter who you are 語法

无论你是谁，

or how much money you have.

也无论你有多少钱。

People all over the world are feeling it.

世界各地的人都能感受到爱。

It should be noted that 表達脈絡

需要注意的是，

having more money does not necessarily equate to being more happy. 短語搭配

钱更多并不一定意味着更幸福。

This is what's known as the hedonistic treadmill. 文化背景

这就是所谓的“享乐跑步机效应”。

Getting more money helps with happiness,

钱变多确实有助于提升幸福感，

but only up 短語搭配

但这种作用只会持续

to a certain point.

到某个临界点。

In the United States,

在美国，

that point is about $75,000 a year.

这个临界点约为每年75,000美元。

At that point,

到了这个点，

more money has diminishing returns 用詞

更多的钱带来的幸福回报

on how happy it makes you.

会逐渐递减。

Another thing that correlates 用詞

还有一件事也与

to having more money,

钱更多、

more wealth, is living longer,

财富更多相关，那就是活得更久，

having a larger life expectancy.

也就是预期寿命更长。

But you know what else correlates to living longer? 表達脈絡

但你知道还有什么也与长寿相关吗？

Love.

爱。

But not just passionate love,

但不只是激情之爱，

the kind of love that follows it,

还有在它之后出现的那种爱——

committed long-term love.

彼此承诺的长期爱情。

In fact,

事实上，

people who form lifelong 用詞

与另一个人建立

pair bonds with another person

终身伴侣纽带的人，

live on average 15% longer.

平均会多活15%。

So if you want to be really non-hard sciencey 用詞

所以，如果要用一种很不严谨的科学方式

about it,

来说，

all other things being equal and assuming that 講解

在其他条件都相同，并且假设

you're not already super,

你还没有特别、

super rich,

特别富有，

finding a pair bond,

那么找到一个伴侣，

finding a relationship that

找到一段

lasts for life,

持续终生的关系，

is the equivalent of

就相当于

making about an extra $30,000 to 40,000 a year.

每年多赚大约30,000到40,000美元。

Now, like I said,

好了，正如我刚才所说，

that's not hard science, 表達脈絡

这不是什么严谨的科学，

but you know what is?

但你知道什么是吗？

Vasopressin and oxytocin, 文化背景

那就是加压素和催产素。

the chemicals that are

这两种化学物质

exuded in people's brains

会在人脑中分泌，

when they look at

触发条件是看到

photos of people that

与自己建立了

they formed committed long-term relationships with.

彼此承诺的长期关系之人的照片。

These chemicals are incredible.

这些化学物质非常神奇。

We've also seen elevated

我们还观察到，

levels of them in

有些狗体内的这些物质水平会升高，

dogs that have been 語法

而这些狗

pet for a really long time.

都被人长时间抚摸过。

And we also know

我们还知道，

that couples who receive

体内这些物质

high levels of these

水平较高的情侣

chemicals resolve conflicts faster. 短語搭配

能更快化解冲突。

And people who struggle

而大脑中

to produce these chemicals

难以产生这些化学物质的人，

in their brain have

也会面临

a similar struggle

类似的困难，

when it comes to

那就是难以

forming long-term relationships.

建立长期关系。

In fact,

事实上，

you can raise your levels

你可以提高自己大脑中

of oxytocin or vasopressin

催产素或加压素

inside your own brain

的水平，

by simply looking into someone else's eyes. 語法

只要凝视另一个人的双眼即可。

That's right.

没错。

So,

所以，

in a way, 表達脈絡

从某种意义上说，

looking into the eyes 習語

凝视

of somebody that you like

你喜欢之人的双眼，

is the administration

就相当于给自己用了一剂

of a psychoactive drug that's addictive

会让人上瘾的精神活性药物，

and the long-term consequences are living longer.

而它的长期后果是让你活得更久。

Thanks for watching.

感谢观看。