什么是情商？：英语精读讲义

Emotional intelligence is the quality that enables us 語法

情商是这样一种品质，它使我们能够

to confront with patience, insight, and imagination 短語搭配

带着耐心、洞察力和想象力去面对

the many problems that we face

我们所面临的许多问题，

in our affective relationship with ourselves

无论是处理与自己的情感关系

and with other people.

还是与他人的关系。

The term emotional intelligence may sound odd. 短語搭配

“情商”这个词听起来可能有些奇怪。

We're used to referring to intelligence just as a general quality 語法

我们习惯于把“智力”仅仅看作一种普遍的品质，

without unpicking a particular variety a person might possess. 用詞

而不去剖析一个人可能具备的特定种类。

And therefore, we don't tend to highlight the value 語法

因此，我们往往不会强调

of a distinctive sort of intelligence

某种特定智力的价值，

which currently does not enjoy the prestige it should. 短語搭配

导致它目前没有得到应有的重视。

Every sort of intelligence signals an ability

每种智力都标志着一种能力，

to navigate well around a particular set of challenges, 習語

能够巧妙应对一系列特定的挑战，

mathematical, linguistic, technical, commercial.

无论是数学、语言、技术还是商业领域的。

When we say that someone is clever 表達脈絡

当我们说某人很聪明，

but add that they've made a mess of their personal lives 習語

但补充说他们把个人生活搞得一团糟，

or that they've acquired a fortune but are restless and sad

或者说他们虽然赚了钱却焦虑不安、郁郁寡欢，

or that they are powerful but intolerant and unimaginative,

又或者说他们身居高位却心胸狭隘、缺乏想象力时，

we're pointing to a deficit in what deserves to be called 語法

我们其实是在指出一种缺陷，这种缺陷理应被称为

emotional intelligence.

情商不足。

In social life, we can feel the presence

在社会生活中，我们能感受到

of emotional intelligence in a sensitivity 短語搭配

情商的存在，它表现为一种敏感度，

to the moods of others

能察觉他人的情绪变化，

and in a readiness to grasp the surprising things

以及随时准备好去理解

that may be going on for other people

他人内心深处可能正在经历的

beneath the surface. 習語

令人惊讶的事情。

Emotional intelligence recognizes a role for interpretation

情商认可“解读”的作用，

and knows that, for example,

并且知道，例如，

a fiery outburst might be a disguised plea for help 習語

大发雷霆可能是伪装的求救信号，

or that a long political rant may be provoked by hunger

或者长篇大论的政治抱怨可能是因为肚子饿了，

and that concealed within a forceful jolliness 語法

又或者在强颜欢笑的背后，

may be a sorrow that has been sentimentally disavowed.

可能隐藏着被感情用事地否认的悲伤。

In relation to ourselves,

就我们自身而言，

emotional intelligence shows up in a skepticism 講解

情商表现为一种怀疑态度，

around our emotions, especially those of love,

对自己的情绪保持怀疑，尤其是关于爱、

desire, anger, envy, anxiety,

欲望、愤怒、嫉妒、焦虑，

and professional ambition.

以及职业抱负的情绪。

The emotionally intelligent refuse to just trust 語法

高情商的人拒绝盲目相信

their first impulses or the inherent wisdom

自己的第一冲动，或是情绪中

of their feelings.

所谓的固有智慧。

They know that hatred may mask love, 用詞

他们知道，仇恨可能会掩盖爱意，

that anger may be a cover for sadness, 習語

愤怒可能是悲伤的掩饰，

and that we are prone to huge and costly inaccuracies 短語搭配

而且我们很容易犯下巨大且代价高昂的错误，

in whom we desire and what we really seek.

错判我们渴望的对象和真正追求的目标。

Emotional intelligence is also what distinguishes 語法

情商还能区分出两类人：

those who are crushed by failure

一类是被失败击垮的人，

from those who know how to greet the troubles of existence 習語

另一类是懂得如何迎接生活的烦恼，

with a melancholy and at points darkly humorous resilience.

带着一丝忧郁甚至黑色幽默的韧性去面对的人。

The emotionally intelligent appreciate the role

高情商的人懂得，

of well-handled pessimism 習語

妥善处理的悲观情绪，

within the overall economy of a good life.

在美好生活的整体规划中扮演着重要角色。

Emotional intelligence isn't an inborn talent.

情商不是与生俱来的天赋。

It's always the result of education,

它永远是教育的结果，

specifically education in how to interpret ourselves,

具体来说，是教我们如何解读自己，

in where our emotions arise from, 語法

情绪从何而来，

in how our childhoods influence us,

童年如何影响我们，

and in how we might best navigate

以及我们如何才能最好地驾驭

our fears and our wishes.

自己的恐惧和愿望。

In the utopia, it would be routine 語法

在理想世界中，这应该是常规做法：

to be taught emotional intelligence from the youngest age

从小就接受情商教育，

before we'd had the opportunity to make too many mistakes.

在我们有机会犯下太多错误之前。

It's because we have, until now, 語法

正因为直到现在，我们都

not taken emotional education seriously enough 短語搭配

没有足够重视情感教育，

that our species has grown ever more technically adept 語法

我们这个物种在技术上变得越来越娴熟，

while retaining the level of wisdom of our earliest days

却依然停留在我们诞生之初的智慧水平，

with catastrophic results.

从而导致了灾难性的后果。

We are now evolved monkeys with nuclear weapons. 習語

我们现在是拥有核武器的进化版猴子。

It appears that the fate of civilization depends 短語搭配

看来，文明的命运取决于

on our capacity to master the mechanisms

我们能否在为时已晚之前，

of emotional education before it's too late. 短語搭配

掌握情感教育的机制。

An emotional education extends far beyond 短語搭配

情感教育的影响远不止于

formal education as we've conceived of it to date. 用詞

我们迄今为止所理解的正规教育。

Though it should ideally include courses

尽管最理想的情况是，在中小学或大学的每一年

in every year of school or college,

都开设相关课程，

emotional education is more than something

但情感教育不仅仅是

that should just take place in classrooms

应该在教室里发生、

at the hands of teachers 習語

由老师传授、

and come to a halt around the age of 21. 短語搭配

并在21岁左右戛然而止的事情。

The central vehicle for the transfer of emotional intelligence 習語

传递情商的核心载体，

is culture from its highest to its most popular level.

是从最高雅到最通俗的文化。

Culture is the field that can ritualize

文化这个领域能够将智慧仪式化，

and consistently promote the absorption

并不断促进人们

of wisdom.

吸收智慧。

The lessons might be embedded in a tragedy

这些教训可能隐藏在一出悲剧中，

or a TV series,

或是一部电视剧里，

a pop song or a novel,

一首流行歌曲或是一本小说中，

a work of architecture or a YouTube film.

一件建筑作品或是一部YouTube视频里。

We can envisage the entire apparatus of culture 語法

我们可以把整个文化体系

as a subtle mechanism designed to point us

想象成一个精妙的机制，旨在引导我们

towards greater emotional intelligence.

获得更高的情商。

We will never progress as a species 語法

作为一个物种，我们将永远无法进步，

and will indeed grow into ever greater

甚至会演变成对自己构成更大威胁的、

technologically-armed menaces to ourselves

武装了技术的怪物，

until we've accepted the challenges and opportunities

除非我们接受挑战并抓住机遇，

of properly educating our selves in emotional intelligence.

适当地对自己进行情商教育。

Our technical intelligence is great, of course.

当然，我们的技术智慧很伟大。

It's led us to tame nature and conquer this planet. 習語

它让我们驯服了自然，征服了这颗星球。

But a wiser, saner future for the race 表達脈絡

但是，人类想要拥有一个更明智、更理性的未来，

must depend on a capacity to master

就必须依靠一种能力：

and then seductively teach one another

在还来得及的时候，去掌握

the rudiments of emotional intelligence

并以引人入胜的方式互相教授

while there is still time. 短語搭配

情商的基础知识，

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