什么是真正的爱：英语精读讲义

The world is sick for a surprisingly modest-sounding reason. 表達脈絡

这个世界病了，原因听起来却平淡无奇。

We don't understand love.

我们不懂什么是爱。

And yet, we're rather convinced that we do. 語法

然而，我们却对此深信不疑。

We talk a lot of love, of course,

当然，我们经常谈论爱，

but generally in terms of a dizzying rapture 習語

但通常是指那种令人目眩的神魂颠倒，

lasting a few months

持续几个月，

focused on someone's beauty, intelligence, and strength.

关注于某个人的美貌、智慧和力量。

We have high ideals and refer with confidence

我们有着崇高的理想，并自信地谈论着

to concepts like justice, equality, and rights.

正义、平等和权利等概念。

And yet, somehow in the mix, 習語

然而，在这个过程中，不知何故，

we avoid talking of the sort of love

我们避免谈论那种

that would give true life to any of these. 習語

能赋予这些概念真正生命力的爱。

We are law-abiding and righteous,

我们遵纪守法、刚正不阿，

but we are, in the grandest sense,

但在最宏大的意义上，

in the public square without love.

我们在公共广场上却是缺乏爱的。

The most convincing discussion of love in the West

在西方，关于爱最有说服力的论述

came from Jesus of Nazareth, 文化背景

来自拿撒勒的耶稣，

which has been unfortunate

这却令人感到遗憾，

given how easy it is for rational types 語法

因为理性主义者很容易

to confuse an overcoming of supernatural faith 短語搭配

把克服超自然信仰

with a neglect of the subject of love.

与忽视爱这个主题混为一谈。

To move forward, 表達脈絡

为了向前迈进，

we might require a new philosophy of love.

我们可能需要一种新的爱情哲学。

In effect, a powerful secular religion of love.

实际上，就是一种强大的世俗的爱的宗教。

This should be read out after the news

这些内容应该在新闻结束后宣读，

and its tenets taught to CEOs and supply chain managers.

其宗旨应该教授给首席执行官和供应链经理。

We should put it on T-shirts

我们应该把它印在T恤上，

and it should be as common 語法

并且这句话应该变得很普遍，

and more useful to say,

甚至更有用，那就是说：

"I'm trying to learn to love,"

“我正在努力学习如何去爱，”

as to announce a desire to become fit or famous.

就像宣布想要健身或出名一样。

It's no insult to have to acknowledge 語氣意圖

承认我们不懂爱并不是一种耻辱，

that even though we inhabit a culture soaked in romanticism, 講解

尽管我们生活在一个充满浪漫主义的文化中，

we have problems understanding love.

我们在理解爱上依然存在问题。

And even though we've had plenty of crushes

尽管我们有过很多次迷恋，

and heard plenty of songs about love,

听过无数关于爱的情歌，

we're still taking our first steps 習語

我们依然才刚刚迈出第一步，

towards grasping what love might actually be.

去理解爱究竟可能是什么。

Here, then, are seven key constituent ingredients of love.

那么，以下是构成爱的七个核心要素。

Charity.

宽容。

Love means, above anything else, benevolence and gentleness

爱首先意味着仁慈和温和，

towards what is failed, disgraced, broken, unappealing, 語法

对待其他人以及我们自身中那些失败、不光彩、破碎、不吸引人、

angry, and foul in other people and in ourselves.

愤怒和丑陋的部分。

Love isn't about an admiration for strength. 表達脈絡

爱不在于对力量的钦佩。

It's about directing sympathy in a most unexpected direction

它在于将同情心引向最意想不到的方向，

at what is messed up, lost, and in pieces, 講解

指向那些一团糟、迷失、支离破碎的事物，

and at what we might hate, resent, and be frightened of.

指向那些我们可能讨厌、怨恨和害怕的事物。

Anyone can express an interest in perfection. 表達脈絡

任何人都可以对完美表现出兴趣。

To love is to devote an active charity

去爱，意味着奉献一种积极的宽容

towards the mistakes and aberrations.

去对待错误和偏差。

One day, we will all require the charity of others.

总有一天，我们都会需要他人的宽容。

In one way or another, we'll be on our knees 習語

我们迟早都会有屈膝求人的时候，

and we will need people to look past our evident failings 短語動詞

我们需要人们不计较我们明显的缺点，

in a tender search for our deeply hidden merits. 習語

温柔地寻找我们深藏的优点。

Imagination.

想象力。

To love with imagination is to look beneath the surface 習語

带着想象力去爱，意味着透过表象看本质，

where there may be rage, cynicism, brittleness, or transgression,

在愤怒、愤世嫉俗、脆弱或越轨的背后，

and to picture the suffering and pain

去想象那种苦难和伤痛，

that got a person to this place. 習語

是什么让一个人变成了现在的样子。

To love with imagination is to fill in the better reasons 短語動詞

带着想象力去爱，意味着去脑补出更好的理由，

why others are behaving as they do.

解释别人为什么会有那样的行为。

Imaginative love knows that we are all somewhere desperate.

有想象力的爱知道，我们在某些方面都是绝望的。

It seeks out that desperation 短語動詞

它寻找出那种绝望，

and treats it with sorrowful gentleness.

并以悲悯的温柔来对待它。

Kindness.

善良。

There are so many fighters for social justice,

有那么多为社会正义而战的斗士，

so many people determined to make a better world.

那么多决心让世界变得更美好的人。

They denounce their enemies and feel certain of their cause, 表達脈絡

他们谴责敌人，对自己的事业深信不疑，

but along the way,

但在这个过程中，

they have a fateful habit of forgetting to be kind.

他们有一个致命的习惯，那就是忘记了善良。

In their denunciations of the evils of others,

在他们谴责他人的罪恶时，

there is precious little mercy, humility, tenderness, or grace. 語法

却极度缺乏怜悯、谦逊、温柔或恩典。

It's not enough to be right or just. 語法

仅仅做到正确或正义是不够的。

To be kind is to know that everyone,

善良在于知道每个人，

even sinners,

甚至罪人，

and in a way, especially sinners,

从某种意义上说，尤其是罪人，

deserve ongoing sympathy and mercy.

都配得上持续的同情和怜悯。

It's never simply because someone is wrong 語法

我们绝不能仅仅因为某人犯了错，

that we have any right to cease showing them the greatest kindness.

就认为我们有权停止向他们展示最大的善意。

Forgiveness.

宽恕。

To forgive

去宽恕

is to know that we are, in our own way,

就是要明白，我们以自己的方式，

as guilty as the next person. 習語

和其他人一样充满罪责。

Given what we all are, 語法

既然我们都是这样的人，

we have no option but to cut each other some slack. 講解

我们别无选择，只能互相包容。

Of course, we've failed and been hasty and less than admirable, 語法

当然，我们失败过、草率过、且并不完美，

but that's no reason forever to withhold love. 語法

但这绝不能成为永远吝啬给予爱的理由。

We learn to forgive when we are no longer self-righteous,

当我们不再自以为是时，我们就学会了宽恕，

that is,

也就是说，

when we're brave enough to fathom the darker sections of our own hearts. 講解

当我们足够勇敢去探索自己内心深处更黑暗的角落时。

Loyalty.

忠诚。

To love means being loyal to people.

爱意味着对人忠诚。

This could be ourselves, even though the crowd no longer agrees. 語法

这也可能包括我们自己，即便大众不再认同。

Outside, the mob may be jeering, 表達脈絡

外界，乌合之众可能在嘲笑，

but we continue on the same side

但我们继续站在同一边，

with steadfastness and an unbudgeable resilient faith.

带着坚定和不可动摇的坚韧信念。

Generosity.

慷慨。

Love overflows. 習語

爱是溢出的。

It isn't about loving just one person. 表達脈絡

它不只关乎爱一个人。

It encompasses the love of someone you've just met, 表達脈絡

它包含了对刚认识的人的爱，

of strangers in another land,

对异国他乡的陌生人的爱，

of the earth,

对地球的爱，

of plants, weevils, house bats,

对植物、象鼻虫、家蝠的爱，

and a moth by the window who might be dead by nightfall.

以及对窗边那只也许活不过今晚的飞蛾的爱。

Patience.

耐心。

We want others to meet our hopes right now, 短語搭配

我们希望别人现在就能满足我们的期望，

but true love means giving people the time to mature and develop, 短語搭配

但真爱意味着给人时间去成熟和发展，

to go wrong, 表達脈絡

去犯错，

to wander in another direction,

去偏离方向，

and not to shout at them,

不要对他们大吼大叫，

but to give them every chance to grow

而是给他们一切机会，

at their own pace towards their better selves. 短語搭配

按照他们自己的节奏成长为更好的自己。

If we can believe wholeheartedly in some of the above, 短語搭配

如果我们能全心全意相信上述的某些理念，

it won't matter who we vote for or what our cause is. 語法

我们投给谁、或者我们的事业是什么，都不重要了。

We can count as part of what is helping.

我们就能算作是在提供帮助的一份子。

We should be almost done with romantic love by now. 短語動詞

到目前为止，我们应该已经受够了浪漫的爱。

We should be setting our sights on the challenge of this sort of love. 習語

我们应该把目光投向这种更具挑战性的爱。

Yet, it's not surprising if we're still only at the beginning.

然而，如果我们还仅仅处于起步阶段，也不足为奇。

We're just starting on the path to being human. 習語

我们只是刚刚踏上成为真正的人的道路。

Love is a skill that we can learn. 表達脈絡

爱是一门我们可以学习的技能。

Our relationships book calmly guides us

我们这本关于人际关系的书心平气和地指导着我们，

with calm and charm through the key issues of relationships

以冷静和魅力带我们解决人际关系中的关键问题，

to ensure that success in love

以确保在爱情中获得成功

need not be a matter of good luck.

不必只靠运气。

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