她对你有意思吗？吸引力的迹象与信号：英语精读讲义

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How do you know if someone likes you?

你如何才能知道某人是否喜欢你？

We mean, of course, in an amorous way, 用詞

当然，我们指的是那种充满爱意、

a desirous way,

带着渴望的方式，

that they want to get intimate with you 短語搭配

也就是他们想要和你变得亲密，

and not just do homework together or share DIY tips.

而不仅仅是一起写作业或分享 DIY 技巧。

Maybe they just come right out and tell you, 短語搭配

也许他们会直接坦白告诉你，

but that's not often the case at the start. 短語搭配

但在刚开始时，情况往往并非如此。

Maybe they hit like on all those Facebook profile pictures you change incessantly, 短語搭配

也许他们会在你不停更换的那些 Facebook 头像上不断点赞，

but that might not mean anything.

但这可能说明不了什么。

There are, however, signals you can read if you know them.

然而，如果你懂行的话，其实是有一些信号可以解读的。

Sometimes these might seem obvious,

有时这些信号似乎很明显，

but sometimes they are more subliminal.

但有时它们则更为潜意识。

Wouldn't it be great if we could just read people like a book 習語

如果我们能像看书一样看透别人，

and know if someone desires us?

并知道某人是否对我们有意思，那该多好啊？

Well, keep watching because today we'll help you out. 短語動詞

那么，请继续看下去，因为今天我们将为你排忧解难。

In this episode of The Infographics Show,

在这一集 The Infographics Show 中，我们要聊的是：

signals of attraction.

吸引力的信号。

How do we know if he or she likes you?

我们怎么知道他或她是否喜欢你？

It might not always be the same for men as it is for women, 語法

男性的表现可能并不总是和女性一样，

so we'll start with how women can tell if a man likes them.

所以我们将从女性如何看出一个男人喜欢她们开始说起。

Men are often expected to make the first move, 習語

人们通常期望男人主动出击，

but here at The Infographics Show,

但在 The Infographics Show 这里，

we'd like to think we're more modern.

我们觉得我们可是挺现代的。

So, other than "Hey, dude, I think you're really cute.

所以，除了说“嘿，哥们，我觉得你真的很可爱。

Do you want to grab a burger sometime?" 語氣意圖

你想找个时间一起去吃个汉堡吗？”之外，

how can a woman tell?

女人该怎么分辨呢？

What are the signs?

都有哪些迹象呢？

Well, the most obvious thing is body language.

嗯，最明显的自然是肢体语言。

What is he saying when he's not saying anything?

当他什么都没说的时候，他到底表达了什么？

Apparently, women have a lot more tells than men, 用詞

显然，女人的下意识动作比男人多得多，

but guys do give some things away. 短語動詞

但男人们确实也会暴露一些心思。

The most obvious being he just keeps looking at you.

最明显的莫过于他一直盯着你看。

This might come across as creepy in some circumstances, 短語動詞

在某些情况下，这可能会让人觉得有点猥琐，

but most of the time his glances will only mean he finds you attractive.

但大多数时候，他的目光仅仅意味着他觉得你很有吸引力。

If he makes eye contact, all the better. 習語

如果他与你有眼神交流，那就更好了。

And if his brows rise,

如果他的眉毛挑了起来，

that may mean he's giving you a signal.

那可能意味着他在给你暗示。

If he's not confident and a little shy,

如果他不够自信，还有点害羞，

maybe he will blush if you approach him.

也许你靠近他时他会脸红。

This is a sure sign he likes you,

这是一个他喜欢你的明确迹象，

unless, of course, he's done something strange like steal your iPhone.

当然，除非他做了什么奇怪的事，比如偷了你的 iPhone。

We should add that a curious gaze is perhaps more benign,

我们需要补充一点，好奇的注视也许更为善意，

while leering at you is probably more carnal. 用詞

而色眯眯地盯着你看则多半更具肉欲色彩。

So, now you're up close to him.

那么，现在你已经靠近他了。

Look at his body now.

现在看看他的身体。

Does he lean in to you? 短語動詞

他是否向你倾斜？

Breach the space between you without actually touching you?

突破了你们之间的距离，但却没有真正碰到你？

This is a sure sign.

这就是个明确的信号。

You should also check out his feet and hands.

你还应该看看他的脚和手。

Are they pointing in your direction?

它们是指向你的方向吗？

This is another sign.

这也是另一个迹象。

It depends on the man,

这取决于那是个什么样的男人，

but some guys will play it tough, 習語

但有些男人会装作很酷，

tell you stories that seem to big him up 短語動詞

给你讲一些似乎在吹嘘自己的故事，

while he sits knees apart and shoulders upright.

同时他双膝分开坐着，肩膀挺直。

A shier person might bumble his words 短語搭配

而比较害羞的人可能会说话结结巴巴，

only because he feels under great pressure being so close to the object of his attraction.

仅仅是因为在如此靠近他所倾慕的对象时，他感到压力山大。

If you look carefully into his eyes,

如果你仔细看他的眼睛，

you may even see his pupils dilate.

你甚至可能会看到他的瞳孔放大。

This is a biological reaction,

这是一种生理反应，

something natural that happens when we are aroused.

是我们被唤起时自然发生的事情。

It's the same for men as it is for women,

这对男人和女人来说都是一样的，

so when those black discs widen in the both of you,

所以当你们两人的黑色瞳孔都变大时，

it means love is in the air 習語

这就意味着空气中弥漫着爱的气息，

or at least some kind of intimacy beckons.

或者至少某种亲密关系正在招手。

So, you've got this man looking at you,

所以，你遇到了这个看着你的男人，

not turning away, giving you his full attention,

他不转头，将全副注意力都放在你身上，

sometimes showing off, and sometimes fumbling around nervously. 短語動詞

有时是在炫耀，有时又紧张得手忙脚乱。

What else?

还有什么呢？

Well, he may try and verbally show interest in you.

嗯，他可能会试图在言语上表现出对你的兴趣。

It's the pickup artist's thing to compliment you and then put you down a bit, 講解

先夸你然后再稍稍贬低你一下，这可是搭讪艺术家的套路，

so be on the lookout for these sorts of nefarious meetings. 短語搭配

所以要警惕这类不怀好意的接触。

If he truly likes you,

如果他真的喜欢你，

you will know his questioning is sincere.

你会知道他的提问是真诚的。

He may even mimic you a little

他甚至可能会稍微模仿你一下，

or you might find him joking with you in a way you haven't seen him do with other girls.

或者你可能会发现他用一种你没见过他跟其他女孩用过的方式和你开玩笑。

Does he give you a very light play punch to the shoulder?

他有没有极轻地跟你闹着玩儿打一下你的肩膀？

This isn't a violent act, of course.

当然，这不是暴力行为。

It means he wants to show a little bit of intimacy.

这说明他想展示一点点亲密感。

It's a step forward.

这也是向前迈出的一步。

He may offer you a compliment,

他可能会赞美你，

but if he offers too many,

但如果他赞美得太多，

he's trying too hard.

那他就是用力过猛了。

You can test him by lightly brushing against him.

你可以通过轻轻擦过他的身体来测试他。

If he throws himself at you,

如果他直接扑向你，

he might just be looking for one thing, 語氣意圖

他可能只是为了那一件事，

but if he seems gentle, doesn't step back,

但如果他显得很温和，而且没有退缩，

it's a sure sign he might have a crush on you. 短語搭配

这就明确表示他可能暗恋你。

What about group dynamics?

那在群体动态中又如何呢？

If other girls turn up,

如果有其他女孩出现，

does he keep his concentration on you or mostly you?

他是否依然把注意力集中在你身上，或者主要是关注你？

That's a good sign.

那是个好兆头。

What about other guys?

如果有其他男人出现呢？

Don't try and make him jealous,

别试图让他吃醋，

but if you notice he seems a little edgy when other guys turn up,

但如果你注意到当其他男人出现时他似乎有点烦躁，

that's just his ego getting bruised or him feeling he might lose you. 習語

那只是他的自尊心受到了挫折，或者他觉得可能会失去你。

There are many other more obvious signs,

还有许多其他更明显的迹象，

such as asking for a phone number or connecting on social media,

比如要电话号码或在社交媒体上加好友，

or that he always seems to be around in the same places as you,

或者他似乎总是在你所在的同一个地方转悠，

but we don't need to tell you about those signs.

但我们不需要告诉你这些迹象。

What about women?

那女人呢？

How do we know when a girl likes you?

我们如何判断一个女孩什么时候喜欢你？

As we said, women have far more signals.

正如我们所说，女人释放的信号要多得多。

Some experts believe that if you find yourself in a position to talk with a woman,

一些专家认为，如果你发现自己正处于与一位女士交谈的位置，

then she has initiated that.

那么这就说明是她发起的。

If she wants to chat,

如果她想聊天，

she'll often be there in front of you.

她通常会站在你面前。

That in itself is a sign,

距离很近这个事实，

the fact that you are close.

这本身就是一个信号。

So, we know some things are the same, such as dilated pupils.

所以，我们知道有些事情是一样的，比如瞳孔放大。

The same goes for light touching,

轻微的触碰也是如此，

but women are often more guarded than men when it comes to being tactile. 短語搭配

但在涉及肢体接触时，女人通常比男人更有戒备心。

If you do find she slaps your leg when you make her laugh

如果你确实发现当你逗她笑时她拍打你的腿，

or that she just seems to brush up against you a lot, 短語動詞

或者她似乎经常擦过你的身体，

this is regarded as one of the biggest signs.

这被认为是最大的迹象之一。

If she is nervous, she may not do this,

如果她很紧张，她可能不会这么做，

but you might find that in your company she can't help but play with her hair. 語法

但你可能会发现，在你的陪伴下她会情不自禁地摆弄头发。

Psychology websites tell us this is an unconscious act most of the time

心理学网站告诉我们，这在大多数情况下是一种无意识的行为，

and is often a sign of nerves,

而且往往是紧张的表现，

but it's not always a sure sign she likes you.

但这并不总是她喜欢你的确定信号。

She might just play with her hair a lot.

她可能只是经常玩头发而已。

So, you are the one telling jokes and you find that she finds you hilarious.

所以，你是那个讲笑话的人，并且你发现她觉得你很搞笑。

Men, never underestimate how much women approve of a good sense of humor. 語法

男人们，永远不要低估女人有多么欣赏良好的幽默感。

You might do better by not bragging about your sports accomplishments

不要吹嘘你的体育成绩可能会更好，

and show her how witty and intelligent you are.

而是向她展示你是多么机智和聪明。

If she is falling over laughing, 習語

如果她笑得前仰后合，

slapping your thigh, it's almost guaranteed she likes you.

拍打着你的大腿，那几乎可以保证她喜欢你。

Now she is looking at you in the eyes between jokes

现在她在讲笑话的间隙看着你的眼睛，

and she wants to know more about you.

她想要更多地了解你。

She may ask a personal question,

她可能会问一个私人问题，

really show interest in you,

真正表现出对你的兴趣，

and that's another sign.

这是另一个迹象。

In fact, scientists actually wrote a paper on all the signs women make when they are attracted to a man

事实上，科学家们曾写过一篇关于女性被男性吸引时所表现出的所有迹象的论文，

by observing their behavior at social events.

方法是通过观察她们在社交活动中的行为。

They came up with 52 signals in total, 短語動詞

他们总共得出了 52 个信号，

while men had only 10 tells.

而男性只有 10 个下意识动作。

Some are obvious, like looking at you, smiling at you,

有些很明显，比如看着你，对你微笑，

but others not so obvious.

但另一些则不那么明显。

Some of these included licking her lips,

其中一些包括舔嘴唇、

exposing her neck, or even caressing something in her hands.

露出脖子，甚至抚摸手里的东西。

But given the seriousness of getting things wrong 語法

但考虑到搞错情况的严重性，

and ending up on the hashtag MeToo list of overzealous men, 文化背景

以及可能会被列入过分热情的男人的 hashtag MeToo 名单，

you must be careful when reading signs.

在解读信号时你必须小心谨慎。

She touches you, looks into your eyes,

她触摸你、注视你的眼睛、

laughs with you,

和你一起笑、

asks you a lot of questions,

问你很多问题、

plays with her hair,

摆弄她的头发，

and, of course, shows you no negative signs like yawning or rolling her eyes, 習語

而且，当然了，她没有向你展示任何负面信号，比如打哈欠或翻白眼，

or making excuses to get away,

或者找借口离开，

then she might just like you.

那她可能真的喜欢你。

Perhaps now and only now 表達脈絡

也许现在，且只有现在，

you can ask her out on a date or ask for her contact information. 短語動詞

你可以约她出去约会，或者要她的联系方式。

A lot of the information we just told you came from male-dedicated websites,

我们刚才告诉你的很多信息都来自面向男性的网站，

so let's have a look at what women say.

所以让我们来看看女性是怎么说的。

Again, it seems playing with her hair and showing her neck are top of the list, 習語

同样，摆弄头发和露出脖子似乎名列前茅，

but so is raising her eyebrows and making eye contact.

但挑眉和眼神交流也是如此。

She might also arch her back,

她还可能会弓起背，

making her seem more voluptuous.

让自己看起来更丰满。

She might be too shy for that,

她可能因为太害羞而不敢那样做，

so she may blush, just a biological reaction,

所以她可能会脸红，这只是一种生理反应，

or very carefully allow her foot to brush against your foot.

或者非常小心地让她的脚擦过你的脚。

You may notice she went to the bathroom and came back to you,

你可能会注意到她去了洗手间然后回到你身边，

but she has applied lipstick.

但她涂了口红。

Rouge lips are attractive to most men.

红唇对大多数男人很有吸引力。

When she scuttled off, did she look back at you over her shoulder?

当她小步跑开时，她有没有越过肩膀回头看你？

That's a sign for sure,

这绝对是个迹象，

unless, of course, she is running away and looks ill at 習語

除非，当然了，她是在逃跑，并且看起来局促不

ease.

安。

You men should know the difference.

你们男人们应该知道这两者的区别。

She comes back and you notice a couple of odd things.

她回来后，你注意到了几件奇怪的事情。

Her nostrils flare and she seems to be copying some of your mannerisms.

她的鼻孔微张，而且似乎在模仿你的一些习惯动作。

Experts tell us this is a sign of attraction.

专家告诉我们，这是被吸引的迹象。

So, you brush against her.

所以，你擦过她的身体。

Does she move in closer or is she repelled?

她是靠得更近了，还是排斥了？

You know what each movement means.

你知道每个动作意味着什么。

Just be gentle.

温柔一点就好。

She might then cross her legs many times or even brush them in an attractive way.

她可能接着会多次交叉双腿，甚至以一种迷人的方式拂过双腿。

Perhaps later she bites her lip seductively,

也许过会儿她会诱惑地咬着嘴唇，

and while there are many men at this gathering,

虽然聚会里有很多男人，

she stays with you.

但她一直和你呆在一起。

She isn't afraid to let you see her body as she keeps chatting with you

在继续和你聊天的同时，她毫不介意让你看到她的身材，

and she keeps on asking you more questions.

而且她不停地问你更多问题。

All in all, if this is happening, 表達脈絡

总而言之，如果发生了这些事，

it very likely means she's into you. 習語

这很可能意味着她对你有好感。

But interpretation isn't always easy,

但是解读并不总是容易的，

so now you might want to get verbal and ask her out.

所以现在你可能会想要付诸口头，约她出去。

In our experience, chocolate and flowers always work best with the ladies.

根据我们的经验，巧克力和鲜花在女士那里总是最管用的。

But who says you can't save money while also romancing your crush? 語法

但谁说你在追求暗恋对象的同时不能省钱呢？

Use Honey and automatically start saving money on all your online purchases.

使用 Honey，你所有在线购物时就会自动开始省钱。

The Honey browser extension works silently in the background,

Honey 浏览器扩展会在后台静默运行，

scanning and testing every coupon code on the internet.

扫描并测试互联网上的每一个优惠码。

So, now you can buy that giant stuffed teddy bear

所以，现在你可以买那个巨大的毛绒泰迪熊了，

without any regrets because you know there won't be a better deal out there.

而且不会有任何遗憾，因为你知道外面没有更划算的交易了。

Honey is easy to use and free to download.

Honey 易于使用且免费下载。

It only takes two clicks and you'll be on your way to saving money. 短語搭配

只需点击两次，你就可以开启省钱之旅了。

Just click the link in the description to add Honey to your browser for free

只需点击描述中的链接，即可免费将 Honey 添加到您的浏览器，

or go to joinhoney.com/infographics.

或者访问 joinhoney.com/infographics。