克服内心糟糕的声音：英语精读讲义

Overcoming bad inner voices.

克服内心糟糕的声音。

We don't often think about it and may never discuss it with others at all,

我们往往不会多想，甚至可能从未与他人谈论过，

but pretty much everyone has voices in their heads, 講解

但几乎每个人的脑海中都有声音，

a murmuring stream of thoughts that run along inside our minds most of the time. 習語

这是大多数时候在我们脑内流淌的喃喃低语。

Sometimes the inner voice is encouraging,

有时内心的声音是令人鼓舞的，

calling for you to run those final few yards,

呼唤你跑完最后几码，

you're nearly there, keep going, keep going,

你快到了，坚持，坚持，

or urging you to calm down because you know it will all be okay in the end. 講解

或者劝你冷静下来，因为你知道一切最终都会没事的。

But sometimes the inner voice is simply not very nice at all. 語法

但有时内心的声音却一点也不友善。

It is defeatist and punitive,

它充满挫败感和惩罚性，

panic-ridden and humiliating. 用詞

充满恐慌和羞辱。

It doesn't represent anything like our best insights or most mature capacities. 短語搭配

它根本不代表我们最好的洞察力或最成熟的能力。

It's not the voice of our better nature. 習語

这不是我们善良本性的声音。

We find ourselves saying

我们发现自己在说

"You disgust me.

“你真让我恶心。

Things always go to shit with you." 習語

事情总会被你搞砸。”

or "You useless little idiot."

或是“你这个没用的小笨蛋。”

Where do inner voices come from?

内心的声音从何而来？

An inner voice always used to be an outer voice.

内心的声音总是曾经外在的声音。

We absorb the tone of others,

我们吸收了他人的语气，

a harassed or angry parent,

疲惫不堪或愤怒的父母，

the menacing threats of an elder sibling keen to put us down, 短語動詞

热衷于贬低我们的哥哥姐姐的恐吓，

the words of a schoolyard bully or a teacher who seemed impossible to please. 語法

校园恶霸或似乎难以取悦的老师的言辞。

We internalize the unhelpful voices

我们将这些无益的声音内化，

because at certain key moments in the past they sounded compelling.

因为在过去某些关键时刻，它们听起来很有说服力。

The authority figures repeated their messages over and over 短語搭配

权威人物一遍又一遍地重复他们的信息，

until they got lodged in our own way of thinking. 習語

直到它们驻留在我们自己的思维方式中。

Part of achieving happiness and maturity involves altering our inner voices, 語法

实现幸福和成熟的一部分在于改变我们内心的声音，

which means encountering equally convincing and confident,

这意味着要遇到同样令人信服和自信、

but also helpful and constructive varieties of voices over long periods and taking care to internalize them. 短語搭配

但在很长一段时间内也是有帮助和建设性的各种声音，并注意将它们内化。

They might be the voices of a friend,

它们可能是朋友、

a therapist, or an author.

治疗师或作家的声音。

We need to hear them often enough 語法

我们需要足够频繁地听到它们，

and around tricky enough issues that they come to feel normal and natural responses,

并在足够棘手的问题周围听到它们，使之感觉像是正常和自然的反应，

so that eventually they come to feel like things we are saying to ourselves. 語法

直到最终它们感觉就像是我们自己在对自己说的话。

They become our own thoughts.

它们变成了我们自己的想法。

The best sort of inner voice speaks to us in a gentle, kind, and unhurried way. 短語搭配

最好的内心声音会以温柔、善良和从容的方式对我们说话。

It should feel as if a sympathetic arm were being put around our shoulder 語法

它应该感觉就像是一只充满同情的臂膀搂着我们的肩膀，

by someone who had lived long and seen a great many sad things,

而这个人活了很久，见过许多悲伤的事情，

but wasn't embittered or panicked by them.

但并没有因此变得愤世嫉俗或恐慌。

In certain states of humiliation around work,

在围绕工作产生某种屈辱感时，

in many of us, there is a mocking and contemptuous voice inside one's head.

我们许多人的脑海中会有一个嘲笑和轻蔑的声音。

It suggests that love, respect, and kindness

它暗示爱、尊重和善意

only ever come via worldly success and competence. 用詞

只有通过世俗的成功和能力才能获得。

Our failure, not being able to make a public speech,

我们的失败，无法公开发表演讲，

taking time to learn to drive a car,

花很多时间学开车，

not being especially brilliant at sales,

在销售方面不是特别出色，

rightly debars us from love and appreciation. 用詞

理所当然地剥夺了我们被爱和欣赏的权利。

We need to incorporate a voice that separates out achievement from love, 短語動詞

我们需要融入一种将成就与爱分开的声音，

that reminds us that we may be worthy of affection even if we fail, 講解

它提醒我们，即使失败了，我们也值得被爱，

and that being a winner is only one part, 表達脈絡

成为赢家只是其中的一部分，

and not necessarily the most important part of one's identity.

而且不一定是身份中最重要的一部分。

This is traditionally the voice of the mother,

这传统上是母亲的声音，

but it might also be the voice of a lover,

但也可能是恋人的声音，

a poet we like,

我们喜欢的诗人的声音，

or a 9-year-old child chatting to his or her mom or dad about stress at the office.

或者是一个9岁的孩子与父母谈论办公室压力的声音。

It is the voice of a person who loves you for being you outside of achievement. 短語搭配

这是一个因为你就是你而在成就之外爱你的人的声音。

Many of us grew up around nervous people,

我们许多人在神经质的人身边长大，

people who lost their tempers the moment the parking ticket couldn't be found, 講解

他们在找不到停车罚单时就会发脾气，

and who were knocked off course by relatively minor administrative hurdles like the electricity bill. 習語

而且会被像电费账单这样相对较小的行政障碍弄得不知所措。

These people had no faith in themselves,

这些人对自己没有信心，

and therefore, without necessarily wanting to do us harm, 語法

因此，在不一定想伤害我们的情况下，

couldn't have much faith in our own abilities either.

对我们自己的能力也没有多少信心。

Every time we faced an exam,

每次我们面临考试时，

they got more alarmed than we did. 語法

他们比我们更惊慌。

They always asked multiple times if we had enough to wear when we went outside.

他们总是多次询问我们出门时穿得够不够。

They worried about our friends and our teachers.

他们担心我们的朋友和我们的老师。

They were sure the holiday was going to turn into a disaster. 短語動詞

他们确信假期会变成一场灾难。

Now these voices have become our own

现在这些声音变成了我们自己的声音，

and cloud our capacity to take an accurate measurement of what we are capable of. 講解

并蒙蔽了我们准确衡量自己能力的能力。

We have internalized voices of irrational fear and fragility.

我们内化了非理性恐惧和脆弱的声音。

At such moments,

在这样的时刻，

we need an alternative voice that can pause our runaway fears 習語

我们需要另一种声音来暂停我们失控的恐惧，

and remind us of the strength we have latent within us, 用詞

并提醒我们潜藏在内心的力量，

which the currents of panic have hidden from us. 習語

而这种力量已经被恐慌的洪流所隐藏。

Our heads are large, cavernous spaces. 習語

我们的脑袋是巨大的、空洞的空间。

They contain the voices of all the people we have ever known. 語法

它们包含了我们曾经认识的所有人的声音。

We should learn to mute the unhelpful ones 習語

我们应该学会让那些无益的声音静音，

and focus on the voices we really need to guide us through the thickets of life. 習語

并专注于我们真正需要用来指引我们穿过生活丛林的声音。

We humbly offer this voice as one of the more helpful ones we might take on board. 短語動詞

我们谦卑地提供这种声音，作为我们可以接受的更有帮助的声音之一。

From a young age, we're taught it's a terrible thing.

从小，我们就被教导这是一件可怕的事情。

So when we feel it, as we all do,

所以当我们感受到它时，就像我们所有人一样，

we're inclined not to examine it.

我们倾向于不去检查它。

We just feel the regional Italian.

我们只感受到了意大利地方风味。

Whatever that means.

不管那是什么意思。

It got some amazing reviews online.

它在网上得到了一些惊人的好评。