「乖孩子」的危險：英語精讀講義

They do their homework on time.

他們按時做作業。

Their writing is neat.

他們字跡工整。

They keep their bedroom tidy. 文法

他們保持臥室整潔。

They're often a little shy.

他們通常有些靦腆。

They want to help their parents.

他們想幫父母的忙。

They use their brakes when cycling down a hill. 文法

他們騎車下坡時會捏煞車。

Because they don't pose many immediate problems, 片語搭配

因為他們不會立即惹出什麼麻煩，

we tend to assume that all is well with good children. 片語搭配

我們往往認為乖孩子一切都好。

They aren't the target for particular concern.

他們不是特別需要關注的對象。

That all goes to the kids who are graffitiing the underpass.

所有的關注都給了那些在地下道塗鴉的孩子。

People imagine the good children are fine

人們想像乖孩子都沒問題，

because they do everything that's expected of them. 片語搭配

因為他們做到了所有被期望的事情。

And that, of course, 表達脈絡

當然，這

is precisely the problem.

恰恰是問題的所在。

The secret sorrows and future difficulties of the good boy or girl

乖男孩或乖女孩隱秘的悲傷和未來的困境，

begin with their inner need for excessive compliance. 用詞

源於他們內心對過度順從的需要。

The good child isn't good

乖孩子之所以乖，

because by a quirk of nature, 慣用語

並不是因為某種天性使然，

they simply have no inclination to be anything else. 片語搭配

讓他們完全沒有其他的傾向。

They are good because they have no other option. 片語搭配

他們乖，是因為別無選擇。

Their goodness is a necessity rather than a choice. 文法

他們的乖巧是一種必然，而不是一種選擇。

Many good children are good out of love of a depressed, 片語搭配

許多乖孩子之所以乖，是出於對憂鬱、

harassed parent who makes it clear they just couldn't cope with any more complications or difficulties. 片語搭配

疲憊不堪的父母的愛，這些父母清楚地表明自己再也無法應對更多的麻煩或困難了。

Or maybe they're very good to soothe a violently angry parent

或者，他們可能為了安撫暴怒的父母而表現得很乖，

who could become catastrophically frightening at any sign of less than perfect conduct. 用詞

這些父母一旦看到任何不完美的舉動，就會變得極其可怕。

But this sort of repression of more challenging emotions,

但是，這種對更具挑戰性情緒的壓抑，

though it produces short-term pleasant obedience, 文法

儘管在短期內會產生令人愉快的順從，

stores up a huge amount of difficulty in later life. 片語動詞

卻為他們以後的生活積攢了巨大的困難。

Practiced educators and parents should spot signs of exaggerated politeness

經驗豐富的教育工作者和父母應該發現過度禮貌的跡象，

and treat it as the grave danger it really is. 文法

並將其視為真正嚴重的危險來對待。

The good child becomes a keeper of too many secrets 慣用語

乖孩子成了太多秘密的保守者，

and an appalling communicator of unpopular but important things.

在傳達不受歡迎但重要的事情上表現得極其糟糕。

They say lovely words.

他們說著好聽的話。

They're experts in satisfying the expectations of their audiences, 片語搭配

他們是滿足聽眾期望的專家，

but their real thoughts and feelings stay buried 慣用語

但他們真實的想法和感受卻被埋藏起來，

and then generate psychosomatic symptoms, 用詞

進而產生心身症狀，

twitches, sudden outbursts,

抽搐、突然的情緒爆發，

and sulfurous bitterness.

以及充滿怨恨的苦澀。

The sickness of the good child is that they have no experience

乖孩子的病態在於，他們沒有經歷過

of other people being able to tolerate their badness. 用詞

別人能夠包容他們的壞。

They have missed out a vital privilege accorded to the healthy child, 講解

他們錯過了健康孩子被賦予的一項重要特權，

that of being able to display envious, greedy, egomaniacal sides

那就是能夠展現出嫉妒、貪婪、自大的一面，

and yet be tolerated and loved nevertheless. 表達脈絡

卻依然能被包容和被愛。

The good person typically has particular problems around sex.

乖孩子在性方面通常有特定的問題。

As a child,

在孩童時期，

they may have been praised for being pure and innocent.

他們可能因為純潔無瑕而受到讚揚。

As they become an adult, however,

然而，當他們長大成人後，

like all of us,

像我們所有人一樣，

they discover the ecstasies of sex,

他們會發現性的狂喜，

which can be beautifully perverse and excitingly disgusting.

它可以是美妙地有悖常理，令人興奮地覺得噁心。

But this may be radically at odds with a picture of what they believe they're allowed to be like. 慣用語

但這可能與他們自認為應該成為的形象嚴重不符。

They may in response disavow their desires, 用詞

作為回應，他們可能會否認自己的慾望，

go cold and detached from their bodies, 慣用語

變得冷漠並與自己的身體脫節，

or perhaps give in to their longings 片語動詞

或者可能會屈服於自己的渴望，

only in a disproportionate way that's destructive to other bits of their lives

但這種方式往往不成比例，對他們生活的其他部分造成破壞，

and leaves them disgusted and frightened.

並讓他們感到厭惡和恐懼。

At work, the good adult has problems too.

在工作中，乖成年人也會遇到問題。

As a child,

孩童時期，

they follow the rules,

他們遵守規則，

never make trouble,

絕不惹麻煩，

and take care not to annoy anyone. 文法

並且小心翼翼不惹怒任何人。

But following the rules won't get you very far in adult life. 慣用語

但在成年人的世界裡，遵守規則並不能讓你走得很遠。

Almost everything that's interesting, worth doing, 文法

幾乎所有有趣的、值得做的事情，

or important will meet with a degree of opposition. 片語搭配

或者是重要的事情，都會遇到一定程度的反對。

A brilliant idea will always disappoint certain people

一個絕妙的主意總會讓某些人失望，

and yet may be very much worth holding on to. 片語動詞

但它可能非常值得堅持下去。

The good child is condemned to career mediocrity and sterile people-pleasing. 慣用語

乖孩子注定在職業生涯中平庸，成為毫無結果的討好者。

Being properly mature involves a frank, unfrightened relationship with one's own dark sides, 慣用語

真正的成熟意味著能夠坦然、無畏地面對自己的陰暗面、

complexities, and ambitions.

複雜性和野心。

It involves accepting that not everything that makes us happy will please others 文法

這意味著接受並非所有讓我們快樂的事情都能取悅他人，

or be honored as especially nice by society,

或者被社會視為特別美好，

but that it can be important to explore and hold on to it nevertheless.

儘管如此，去探索並堅持它依然可能很重要。

The desire to be good is one of the loveliest things in the world.

想要變乖的渴望是世界上最美好的事情之一。

But in order to have a genuinely good life,

但是，為了擁有真正美好的生活，

we may sometimes need to be,

我們有時可能需要，

by the standards of the good child, 片語搭配

按照乖孩子的標準，

fruitfully and bravely bad. 表達脈絡

展現出富有成效、勇敢的壞。

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