什麼是情緒智商？：英語精讀講義

Emotional intelligence is the quality that enables us 文法

情商是一種品質，它能讓我們

to confront with patience, insight, and imagination 片語搭配

帶著耐心、洞察力和想像力去面對

the many problems that we face

我們所面臨的許多問題，

in our affective relationship with ourselves

無論是在我們與自己的情感關係中，

and with other people.

還是與他人的關係中。

The term emotional intelligence may sound odd. 片語搭配

情商這個詞聽起來可能有些奇怪。

We're used to referring to intelligence just as a general quality 文法

我們習慣於把智力僅僅當作一種普遍的特質，

without unpicking a particular variety a person might possess. 用詞

而不會去拆解某個人可能擁有的特定種類的智力。

And therefore, we don't tend to highlight the value 文法

因此，我們往往不會強調

of a distinctive sort of intelligence

這種獨特智力的價值，

which currently does not enjoy the prestige it should. 片語搭配

導致它目前未能享有應有的聲望。

Every sort of intelligence signals an ability

每種智力都標誌著一種能力，

to navigate well around a particular set of challenges, 慣用語

能夠很好地應對特定的一連串挑戰，

mathematical, linguistic, technical, commercial.

例如數學、語言、技術或商業方面。

When we say that someone is clever 表達脈絡

當我們說某人很聰明，

but add that they've made a mess of their personal lives 慣用語

卻又補充說把私生活搞得一團糟，

or that they've acquired a fortune but are restless and sad

或者說他們積累了財富卻感到焦躁和悲傷，

or that they are powerful but intolerant and unimaginative,

又或者說他們大權在握卻心胸狹窄且缺乏想像力時，

we're pointing to a deficit in what deserves to be called 文法

我們指出的正是他們在某種真正值得被稱為

emotional intelligence.

「情商」的能力上的缺失。

In social life, we can feel the presence

在社交生活中，我們可以感受到

of emotional intelligence in a sensitivity 片語搭配

情商的存在，它表現為一種敏銳度，

to the moods of others

能察覺他人的情緒，

and in a readiness to grasp the surprising things

以及一種能夠隨時領會令人驚訝之事的敏捷，

that may be going on for other people

那些可能正發生在他人身上、

beneath the surface. 慣用語

隱藏在表面之下的事。

Emotional intelligence recognizes a role for interpretation

情商認可「解讀」的作用，

and knows that, for example,

並且知道，舉例來說，

a fiery outburst might be a disguised plea for help 慣用語

暴跳如雷可能是一種偽裝的求救，

or that a long political rant may be provoked by hunger

或者長篇大論的政治抱怨可能只是因為肚子餓，

and that concealed within a forceful jolliness 文法

還有在極度歡快的背後，

may be a sorrow that has been sentimentally disavowed.

可能隱藏著一種被情感上否認的悲傷。

In relation to ourselves,

在對待自己的方面，

emotional intelligence shows up in a skepticism 講解

情商表現為對自身情緒的一種懷疑態度，

around our emotions, especially those of love,

特別是針對愛、

desire, anger, envy, anxiety,

慾望、憤怒、嫉妒、焦慮

and professional ambition.

和職業野心。

The emotionally intelligent refuse to just trust 文法

高情商的人拒絕僅僅相信

their first impulses or the inherent wisdom

他們的最初衝動或情感中

of their feelings.

固有的智慧。

They know that hatred may mask love, 用詞

他們知道仇恨可能掩蓋了愛，

that anger may be a cover for sadness, 慣用語

憤怒可能是悲傷的掩飾，

and that we are prone to huge and costly inaccuracies 片語搭配

並且知道我們在渴望誰以及我們真正追求什麼這些問題上，

in whom we desire and what we really seek.

很容易犯下巨大且代價高昂的錯誤。

Emotional intelligence is also what distinguishes 文法

情商也是區分以下兩種人的關鍵：

those who are crushed by failure

被失敗擊垮的人，

from those who know how to greet the troubles of existence 慣用語

和懂得如何迎接生存困境的人，

with a melancholy and at points darkly humorous resilience.

後者帶著一種憂鬱，甚至有時是黑色幽默的韌性。

The emotionally intelligent appreciate the role

高情商的人欣賞

of well-handled pessimism 慣用語

妥善處理的悲觀主義

within the overall economy of a good life.

在美好生活整體經濟學中所扮演的角色。

Emotional intelligence isn't an inborn talent.

情商不是與生俱來的才能。

It's always the result of education,

它始終是教育的結果，

specifically education in how to interpret ourselves,

尤其是關於如何解讀我們自己、

in where our emotions arise from, 文法

我們的情緒從何而來、

in how our childhoods influence us,

我們的童年如何影響我們，

and in how we might best navigate

以及我們如何才能最好地應對

our fears and our wishes.

我們的恐懼和願望的教育。

In the utopia, it would be routine 文法

在烏托邦裡，這會成為常規：

to be taught emotional intelligence from the youngest age

從最幼小的年紀就被教導情商，

before we'd had the opportunity to make too many mistakes.

在我們有機會犯下太多錯誤之前。

It's because we have, until now, 文法

正是因為我們直到現在，

not taken emotional education seriously enough 片語搭配

都沒有把情感教育看得足夠重要，

that our species has grown ever more technically adept 文法

使得我們這個物種在技術上變得越來越熟練，

while retaining the level of wisdom of our earliest days

卻仍保持著我們最早期的智慧水平，

with catastrophic results.

導致了災難性的後果。

We are now evolved monkeys with nuclear weapons. 慣用語

我們現在是擁有核武器的進化猴子。

It appears that the fate of civilization depends 片語搭配

看來文明的命運取決於

on our capacity to master the mechanisms

我們在為時已晚之前，

of emotional education before it's too late. 片語搭配

掌握情感教育機制的能耐。

An emotional education extends far beyond 片語搭配

情感教育遠遠超出了

formal education as we've conceived of it to date. 用詞

我們迄今為止所理解的正規教育。

Though it should ideally include courses

雖然理想情況下，它應該包含在

in every year of school or college,

中學或大學每一年的課程中，

emotional education is more than something

但情感教育絕不僅僅是

that should just take place in classrooms

只應該在教室裡

at the hands of teachers 慣用語

由老師來傳授、

and come to a halt around the age of 21. 片語搭配

並且在 21 歲左右就停止的事情。

The central vehicle for the transfer of emotional intelligence 慣用語

傳遞情商的核心載體

is culture from its highest to its most popular level.

是文化，從其最高雅的層次到最通俗的層次。

Culture is the field that can ritualize

文化是能夠將智慧的吸收

and consistently promote the absorption

儀式化並持續促進它的領域。

of wisdom.

這種智慧。

The lessons might be embedded in a tragedy

這些教訓可能隱藏在一部悲劇

or a TV series,

或是一部電視劇、

a pop song or a novel,

一首流行歌曲或一本小說、

a work of architecture or a YouTube film.

一件建築作品或是一部 YouTube 影片中。

We can envisage the entire apparatus of culture 文法

我們可以把整個文化體系想像成

as a subtle mechanism designed to point us

一種精妙的機制，旨在引導我們

towards greater emotional intelligence.

走向更高的情商。

We will never progress as a species 文法

我們這個物種永遠不會進步，

and will indeed grow into ever greater

甚至會演變成

technologically-armed menaces to ourselves

用技術武裝起來的、對我們自身更大的威脅，

until we've accepted the challenges and opportunities

直到我們接受了挑戰和機遇，

of properly educating our selves in emotional intelligence.

也就是適當地在情商方面教育我們自己。

Our technical intelligence is great, of course.

當然，我們的技術智力非常了不起。

It's led us to tame nature and conquer this planet. 慣用語

它讓我們馴服了自然並征服了這顆星球。

But a wiser, saner future for the race 表達脈絡

但對人類而言，一個更明智、更理智的未來，

must depend on a capacity to master

必定取決於我們是否有能力去掌握，

and then seductively teach one another

並以充滿吸引力的方式互相教導

the rudiments of emotional intelligence

情商的基礎，

while there is still time. 片語搭配

趁著還有時間。

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