她對你有意思嗎？吸引力的跡象與訊號：英語精讀講義

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How do you know if someone likes you?

你如何才能知道某人是否喜歡你？

We mean, of course, in an amorous way, 用詞

當然，我們指的是那種充滿愛意、

a desirous way,

帶著渴望的方式，

that they want to get intimate with you 片語搭配

也就是他們想要和你變得親密，

and not just do homework together or share DIY tips.

而不僅僅是一起寫作業或分享 DIY 技巧。

Maybe they just come right out and tell you, 片語搭配

也許他們會直接坦白告訴你，

but that's not often the case at the start. 片語搭配

但在剛開始時，情況往往並非如此。

Maybe they hit like on all those Facebook profile pictures you change incessantly, 片語搭配

也許他們會在你不停更換的那些 Facebook 大頭貼上不斷按讚，

but that might not mean anything.

但這可能說明不了什麼。

There are, however, signals you can read if you know them.

然而，如果你懂行的話，其實是有一些信號可以解讀的。

Sometimes these might seem obvious,

有時這些信號似乎很明顯，

but sometimes they are more subliminal.

但有時它們則更為潛意識。

Wouldn't it be great if we could just read people like a book 慣用語

如果我們能像看書一樣看透別人，

and know if someone desires us?

並知道某人是否對我們有意思，那該多好啊？

Well, keep watching because today we'll help you out. 片語動詞

那麼，請繼續看下去，因為今天我們將為你排憂解難。

In this episode of The Infographics Show,

在這一集 The Infographics Show 中，我們要聊的是：

signals of attraction.

吸引力的信號。

How do we know if he or she likes you?

我們怎麼知道他或她是否喜歡你？

It might not always be the same for men as it is for women, 文法

男性的表現可能並不總是和女性一樣，

so we'll start with how women can tell if a man likes them.

所以我們將從女性如何看出一個男人喜歡她們開始說起。

Men are often expected to make the first move, 慣用語

人們通常期望男人主動出擊，

but here at The Infographics Show,

但在 The Infographics Show 這裡，

we'd like to think we're more modern.

我們覺得我們可是滿現代的。

So, other than "Hey, dude, I think you're really cute.

所以，除了說「嘿，老兄，我覺得你真的很可愛。

Do you want to grab a burger sometime?" 語氣意圖

你想找個時間一起去吃個漢堡嗎？」之外，

how can a woman tell?

女人該怎麼分辨呢？

What are the signs?

都有哪些跡象呢？

Well, the most obvious thing is body language.

嗯，最明顯的自然是肢體語言。

What is he saying when he's not saying anything?

當他什麼都沒說的時候，他到底表達了什麼？

Apparently, women have a lot more tells than men, 用詞

顯然，女人的下意識動作比男人多得多，

but guys do give some things away. 片語動詞

但男人們確實也會暴露一些心思。

The most obvious being he just keeps looking at you.

最明顯的莫過於他一直盯著你看。

This might come across as creepy in some circumstances, 片語動詞

在某些情況下，這可能會讓人覺得有點變態，

but most of the time his glances will only mean he finds you attractive.

但大多數時候，他的目光僅僅意味著他覺得你很有吸引力。

If he makes eye contact, all the better. 慣用語

如果他與你有眼神交流，那就更好了。

And if his brows rise,

如果他的眉毛挑了起來，

that may mean he's giving you a signal.

那可能意味著他在給你暗示。

If he's not confident and a little shy,

如果他不夠自信，還有點害羞，

maybe he will blush if you approach him.

也許你靠近他時他會臉紅。

This is a sure sign he likes you,

這是一個他喜歡你的明確跡象，

unless, of course, he's done something strange like steal your iPhone.

當然，除非他做了什麼奇怪的事，比如偷了你的 iPhone。

We should add that a curious gaze is perhaps more benign,

我們需要補充一點，好奇的注視也許更為善意，

while leering at you is probably more carnal. 用詞

而色瞇瞇地盯著你看則多半更具肉慾色彩。

So, now you're up close to him.

那麼，現在你已經靠近他了。

Look at his body now.

現在看看他的身體。

Does he lean in to you? 片語動詞

他是否向你傾斜？

Breach the space between you without actually touching you?

突破了你們之間的距離，但卻沒有真正碰到你？

This is a sure sign.

這就是個明確的信號。

You should also check out his feet and hands.

你還應該看看他的腳和手。

Are they pointing in your direction?

它們是指向你的方向嗎？

This is another sign.

這也是另一個跡象。

It depends on the man,

這取決於那是個什麼樣的男人，

but some guys will play it tough, 慣用語

但有些男人會裝作很酷，

tell you stories that seem to big him up 片語動詞

給你講一些似乎在吹噓自己的故事，

while he sits knees apart and shoulders upright.

同時他雙膝分開坐著，肩膀挺直。

A shier person might bumble his words 片語搭配

而比較害羞的人可能會說話結結巴巴，

only because he feels under great pressure being so close to the object of his attraction.

僅僅是因為在如此靠近他所傾慕的對象時，他感到壓力山大。

If you look carefully into his eyes,

如果你仔細看他的眼睛，

you may even see his pupils dilate.

你甚至可能會看到他的瞳孔放大。

This is a biological reaction,

這是一種生理反應，

something natural that happens when we are aroused.

是我們被喚起時自然發生的事情。

It's the same for men as it is for women,

這對男人和女人來說都是一樣的，

so when those black discs widen in the both of you,

所以當你們兩人的黑色瞳孔都變大時，

it means love is in the air 慣用語

這就意味著空氣中瀰漫著愛的氣息，

or at least some kind of intimacy beckons.

或者至少某種親密關係正在招手。

So, you've got this man looking at you,

所以，你遇到了這個看著你的男人，

not turning away, giving you his full attention,

他不轉頭，將全副注意力都放在你身上，

sometimes showing off, and sometimes fumbling around nervously. 片語動詞

有時是在炫耀，有時又緊張得手忙腳亂。

What else?

還有什麼呢？

Well, he may try and verbally show interest in you.

嗯，他可能會試圖在言語上表現出對你的興趣。

It's the pickup artist's thing to compliment you and then put you down a bit, 講解

先誇你然後再稍稍貶低你一下，這可是搭訕藝術家的套路，

so be on the lookout for these sorts of nefarious meetings. 片語搭配

所以要警惕這類不懷好意的接觸。

If he truly likes you,

如果他真的喜歡你，

you will know his questioning is sincere.

你會知道他的提問是真誠的。

He may even mimic you a little

他甚至可能會稍微模仿你一下，

or you might find him joking with you in a way you haven't seen him do with other girls.

或者你可能會發現他用一種你沒見過他跟其他女孩用過的方式和你開玩笑。

Does he give you a very light play punch to the shoulder?

他有沒有極輕地跟你鬧著玩兒打一下你的肩膀？

This isn't a violent act, of course.

當然，這不是暴力行為。

It means he wants to show a little bit of intimacy.

這說明他想展示一點點親密感。

It's a step forward.

這也是向前邁出的一步。

He may offer you a compliment,

他可能會讚美你，

but if he offers too many,

但如果他讚美得太多，

he's trying too hard.

那他就是用力過猛了。

You can test him by lightly brushing against him.

你可以透過輕輕擦過他的身體來測試他。

If he throws himself at you,

如果他直接撲向你，

he might just be looking for one thing, 語氣意圖

他可能只是為了那一件事，

but if he seems gentle, doesn't step back,

但如果他顯得很溫和，而且沒有退縮，

it's a sure sign he might have a crush on you. 片語搭配

這就明確表示他可能暗戀你。

What about group dynamics?

那在群體動態中又如何呢？

If other girls turn up,

如果有其他女孩出現，

does he keep his concentration on you or mostly you?

他是否依然把注意力集中在你身上，或者主要是關注你？

That's a good sign.

那是個好兆頭。

What about other guys?

如果有其他男人出現呢？

Don't try and make him jealous,

別試圖讓他吃醋，

but if you notice he seems a little edgy when other guys turn up,

但如果你注意到當其他男人出現時他似乎有點煩躁，

that's just his ego getting bruised or him feeling he might lose you. 慣用語

那只是他的自尊心受到了挫折，或者他覺得可能會失去你。

There are many other more obvious signs,

還有許多其他更明顯的跡象，

such as asking for a phone number or connecting on social media,

比如要電話號碼或在社群媒體上加好友，

or that he always seems to be around in the same places as you,

或者他似乎總是在你所在的同一個地方轉悠，

but we don't need to tell you about those signs.

但我們不需要告訴你這些跡象。

What about women?

那女人呢？

How do we know when a girl likes you?

我們如何判斷一個女孩什麼時候喜歡你？

As we said, women have far more signals.

正如我們所說，女人釋放的信號要多得多。

Some experts believe that if you find yourself in a position to talk with a woman,

一些專家認為，如果你發現自己正處於與一位女士交談的位置，

then she has initiated that.

那麼這就說明是她發起的。

If she wants to chat,

如果她想聊天，

she'll often be there in front of you.

她通常會站在你面前。

That in itself is a sign,

距離很近這個事實，

the fact that you are close.

這本身就是一個信號。

So, we know some things are the same, such as dilated pupils.

所以，我們知道有些事情是一樣的，比如瞳孔放大。

The same goes for light touching,

輕微的觸碰也是如此，

but women are often more guarded than men when it comes to being tactile. 片語搭配

但在涉及肢體接觸時，女人通常比男人更有戒備心。

If you do find she slaps your leg when you make her laugh

如果你確實發現當你逗她笑時她拍打你的腿，

or that she just seems to brush up against you a lot, 片語動詞

或者她似乎經常擦過你的身體，

this is regarded as one of the biggest signs.

這被認為是最大的跡象之一。

If she is nervous, she may not do this,

如果她很緊張，她可能不會這麼做，

but you might find that in your company she can't help but play with her hair. 文法

但你可能會發現，在你的陪伴下她會情不自禁地把玩頭髮。

Psychology websites tell us this is an unconscious act most of the time

心理學網站告訴我們，這在大多數情況下是一種無意識的行為，

and is often a sign of nerves,

而且往往是緊張的表現，

but it's not always a sure sign she likes you.

但這並不總是她喜歡你的確定信號。

She might just play with her hair a lot.

她可能只是經常玩頭髮而已。

So, you are the one telling jokes and you find that she finds you hilarious.

所以，你是那個講笑話的人，並且你發現她覺得你很搞笑。

Men, never underestimate how much women approve of a good sense of humor. 文法

男人們，永遠不要低估女人有多麼欣賞良好的幽默感。

You might do better by not bragging about your sports accomplishments

不要吹噓你的體育成績可能會更好，

and show her how witty and intelligent you are.

而是向她展示你是多麼機智和聰明。

If she is falling over laughing, 慣用語

如果她笑得前仰後合，

slapping your thigh, it's almost guaranteed she likes you.

拍打著你的大腿，那幾乎可以保證她喜歡你。

Now she is looking at you in the eyes between jokes

現在她在講笑話的間隙看著你的眼睛，

and she wants to know more about you.

她想要更多地了解你。

She may ask a personal question,

她可能會問一個私人問題，

really show interest in you,

真正表現出對你的興趣，

and that's another sign.

這是另一個跡象。

In fact, scientists actually wrote a paper on all the signs women make when they are attracted to a man

事實上，科學家們曾寫過一篇關於女性被男性吸引時所表現出的所有跡象的論文，

by observing their behavior at social events.

方法是透過觀察她們在社交活動中的行為。

They came up with 52 signals in total, 片語動詞

他們總共得出了 52 個信號，

while men had only 10 tells.

而男性只有 10 個下意識動作。

Some are obvious, like looking at you, smiling at you,

有些很明顯，比如看著你，對你微笑，

but others not so obvious.

但另一些則不那麼明顯。

Some of these included licking her lips,

其中一些包括舔嘴唇、

exposing her neck, or even caressing something in her hands.

露出脖子，甚至撫摸手裡的東西。

But given the seriousness of getting things wrong 文法

但考慮到搞錯情況的嚴重性，

and ending up on the hashtag MeToo list of overzealous men, 文化背景

以及可能會被列入過分熱情的男人的 hashtag MeToo 名單，

you must be careful when reading signs.

在解讀信號時你必須小心謹慎。

She touches you, looks into your eyes,

她觸摸你、注視你的眼睛、

laughs with you,

和你一起笑、

asks you a lot of questions,

問你很多問題、

plays with her hair,

把玩她的頭髮，

and, of course, shows you no negative signs like yawning or rolling her eyes, 慣用語

而且，當然了，她沒有向你展示任何負面信號，比如打哈欠或翻白眼，

or making excuses to get away,

或者找藉口離開，

then she might just like you.

那她可能真的喜歡你。

Perhaps now and only now 表達脈絡

也許現在，且只有現在，

you can ask her out on a date or ask for her contact information. 片語動詞

你可以約她出去約會，或者要她的聯絡方式。

A lot of the information we just told you came from male-dedicated websites,

我們剛才告訴你的很多資訊都來自面向男性的網站，

so let's have a look at what women say.

所以讓我們來看看女性是怎麼說的。

Again, it seems playing with her hair and showing her neck are top of the list, 慣用語

同樣，把玩頭髮和露出脖子似乎名列前茅，

but so is raising her eyebrows and making eye contact.

但挑眉和眼神交流也是如此。

She might also arch her back,

她還可能會弓起背，

making her seem more voluptuous.

讓自己看起來更豐滿。

She might be too shy for that,

她可能因為太害羞而不敢那樣做，

so she may blush, just a biological reaction,

所以她可能會臉紅，這只是一種生理反應，

or very carefully allow her foot to brush against your foot.

或者非常小心地讓她的腳擦過你的腳。

You may notice she went to the bathroom and came back to you,

你可能會注意到她去了洗手間然後回到你身邊，

but she has applied lipstick.

但她塗了口紅。

Rouge lips are attractive to most men.

紅唇對大多數男人很有吸引力。

When she scuttled off, did she look back at you over her shoulder?

當她小步跑開時，她有沒有越過肩膀回頭看你？

That's a sign for sure,

這絕對是個跡象，

unless, of course, she is running away and looks ill at 慣用語

除非，當然了，她是在逃跑，並且看起來局促不

ease.

安。

You men should know the difference.

你們男人們應該知道這兩者的區別。

She comes back and you notice a couple of odd things.

她回來後，你注意到了幾件奇怪的事情。

Her nostrils flare and she seems to be copying some of your mannerisms.

她的鼻孔微張，而且似乎在模仿你的一些習慣動作。

Experts tell us this is a sign of attraction.

專家告訴我們，這是被吸引的跡象。

So, you brush against her.

所以，你擦過她的身體。

Does she move in closer or is she repelled?

她是靠得更近了，還是排斥了？

You know what each movement means.

你知道每個動作意味著什麼。

Just be gentle.

溫柔一點就好。

She might then cross her legs many times or even brush them in an attractive way.

她可能接著會多次交叉雙腿，甚至以一種迷人的方式拂過雙腿。

Perhaps later she bites her lip seductively,

也許過會兒她會誘惑地咬著嘴唇，

and while there are many men at this gathering,

雖然聚會裡有很多男人，

she stays with you.

但她一直和你待在一起。

She isn't afraid to let you see her body as she keeps chatting with you

在繼續和你聊天的同時，她毫不介意讓你看到她的身材，

and she keeps on asking you more questions.

而且她不停地問你更多問題。

All in all, if this is happening, 表達脈絡

總而言之，如果發生了這些事，

it very likely means she's into you. 慣用語

這很可能意味著她對你有好感。

But interpretation isn't always easy,

但是解讀並不總是容易的，

so now you might want to get verbal and ask her out.

所以現在你可能會想要付諸口頭，約她出去。

In our experience, chocolate and flowers always work best with the ladies.

根據我們的經驗，巧克力和鮮花在女士那裡總是最管用的。

But who says you can't save money while also romancing your crush? 文法

但誰說你在追求暗戀對象的同時不能省錢呢？

Use Honey and automatically start saving money on all your online purchases.

使用 Honey，你所有線上購物時就會自動開始省錢。

The Honey browser extension works silently in the background,

Honey 瀏覽器擴充功能會在後台靜默運行，

scanning and testing every coupon code on the internet.

掃描並測試網際網路上的每一個折扣碼。

So, now you can buy that giant stuffed teddy bear

所以，現在你可以買那個巨大的毛絨泰迪熊了，

without any regrets because you know there won't be a better deal out there.

而且不會有任何遺憾，因為你知道外面沒有更划算的交易了。

Honey is easy to use and free to download.

Honey 易於使用且免費下載。

It only takes two clicks and you'll be on your way to saving money. 片語搭配

只需點擊兩次，你就可以開啟省錢之旅了。

Just click the link in the description to add Honey to your browser for free

只需點擊描述中的連結，即可免費將 Honey 添加到您的瀏覽器，

or go to joinhoney.com/infographics.

或者前往 joinhoney.com/infographics。